The Stubborn Asshole’s Guide To Accepting Criticism

I'd agree, but

  A few months ago, I left my previous job on a sour note. My boss and I did not get along very well, for numerous reasons. As with all things, it is the other guy’s fault and not mine…but if any responsibility could be ascribed to me, I’m betting it’s because I have a […]

Don’t Ruin The Moment By Wishing For Something Different


“To be upset over what you don’t have is to waste what you do have.” – Ken S. Keyes Jr. The other day, I was eating a delicious, simple, and healthy meal I had made for myself. And then I was struck with a thought: I’d really prefer eating sushi. I spend a lot of […]

Take A Moment To Appreciate Your Accomplishments

success kid accomplishments

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha It was at the 2012 Rutgers University Dance Marathon (RUDM) where I discovered this simple, versatile tool. It can and should be used in almost any situation, and it is easy enough to do that even the most […]

No One Owes You Anything

No one owes you anything

  Every once in a while you come across something that really sticks with you. You read the article, and it wrenches your mind in a direction that you are unfamiliar with. It leads to an “ah-ha!” moment. A few weeks ago, I came across one of these. Harry Browne, former Libertarian Party presidential candidate […]

Can’t We Be Happy All The Time? Learning From Huxley’s Brave New World

Huxley quote on history

“But I don’t want comfort. I want God, I want poetry, I want real danger, I want freedom, I want goodness, I want sin.” “In fact,” said Mustapha Mond, “you’re claiming the right to be unhappy.” “All right then,” said the Savage defiantly, “I’m claiming the right to be unhappy.” “Not to mention the right […]

Resilience: Becoming Antifragile In The Face Of Adversity

Resilient Wall

Bad things happen. It’s just a fact of life. As far as I can tell, this isn’t going to change anytime soon, unless, of course, a super-intelligent AI comes along and solves all human problems. For the sake of this post, let’s assume that this doesn’t happen for a little while. What are we going […]

Write About Your Experiences. It’s Good For You.


Those of you who have been reading my blog for a while are well aware of the value I place on writing. I find that any time I’m mulling something over, writing down my thoughts on it really helps give me more clarity. In general, I feel as though I’ve framed writing as a more […]

The Positive Side Of Negative Emotions

Negative Emotions

This blog is called Feel Happiness for a reason. The pursuit of happiness is indeed a noble pursuit, and working to become a happier person has many obvious (and some not so obvious) benefits. But it would be easy to take this truth and derive some altogether false and damaging ideas from it. Happiness is […]

Stop Being A Jerk And Learn To Cultivate Empathy


In a classic episode of The Simpsons, Bart won an elephant named Stampy. At the end of the episode, they had to give Stampy to a wildlife preserve because they could no longer afford him. Back in the wild, Stampy began to head-butt the other elephants and knock them over as Bart cheered him on. […]

Kabbalah and Self-Reflection

Kabbalah tree

One of the things that separates humans from other species is our capacity for self-reflection. We don’t need to blindly react to stimuli in the same way every single time. Instead, we can learn from our mistakes, take advantage of our strengths, and structure our lives in ways conducive to bettering ourselves. Many spiritual traditions […]