None of us are perfect.
Try as we might, we all screw up in our social interactions at some point. This is totally natural and understandable.
Of course, we should minimize the social mistakes we make.
But no matter how much work we put into becoming perfect social creatures, there will come a point where you say the wrong thing or miss an appointment.
Luckily, there is a way to smooth over these faux pas: apologizing.
It’s such a basic life skill, and so essential for managing your relationships with others, that it is a mystery why it isn’t practiced more.
I guarantee that if you think back to the past week, you can come up with at least one example of a situation that warrants an apology on your part.
Today, you must apologize to that person.
It can be tough to put aside your ego and actually apologize, but you must learn to do it. Maybe it will sting a tiny bit at first, but the benefit to your relationship will surely outweigh that minor inconvenience.
A word of caution: although you should practice apologizing regularly, don’t overdo it.
Most people won’t have a problem with this, but some people (you probably all know one of them) apologize for everything, including things that are clearly not their fault.
You don’t need to apologize for doing something you have every right to do.
In fact, doing so will lower your self-esteem. Only apologize if you are genuinely sorry.
If you are feeling any other emotion, such as resentful or intimidated, it’s probably not your fault. Even when you feel genuinely sorry, ask yourself if you are just apologizing to please the other person. If so, the apology is also unnecessary.
Apologizing is like a stitch that mends together the social fabric of your relationships. When you make an honest mistake, apologize when it is warranted.
People will respect the confidence it takes to make a genuine apology, and your relationship will be improved.
Continue to Day 29: Freeing Yourself From Bad Relationships.